Carolina Confidential

Submission is earned;

it is neither coerced or manipulated. And to be meaningful for Me, it must come from a woman whom I unreservedly revere and admire. The greater her will, intellect, artistic ability, grace, kindness and beauty, the greater the reward of earning her submission.

To that end, earning the submission of such a woman is not the end state but rather just the beginning, because I want more. More of her. All of her. And to do that, she must be allowed to grow to her full potential, which means giving her the space and encouragement to be everything she is capable of being. she is the gift. The better and more whole she is, the more precious the gift to Me.

Therefore, to My way of thinking, a submissive is not a possession that One just takes. Quite the opposite. she is a free being who has chosen of her own will to give herself unreservedly to Me. One cannot simply just take this; it has to be earned and given from the heart of a submissive.

Catching a hummingbird in a net just feels mean spirited and destructive. Having that same hummingbird land on My fingertip of its own accord is a soaring experience. So, it is for Me with a woman’s submission.

There are many women (and men) who are so insecure they will throw themselves at the feet of a Dom for mere acceptance and the illusion of love. This is not submission, it is desperation. In it, there is little reward for a Dom beyond pity and satisfying their own broken wing syndrome; rescuing. This is not submission, it is codependency and is vastly unhealthy for all involved.

But, when a potential Dom can reach into the mind of a confident, well-read, intelligent and capable woman, captivating her imagination and earning her respect and adoration, magic happens! When she bends her knees of her own accord…freely. When I see the look of adoration in her eyes. When she unreservedly gives Me her heart, mind, and soul. Pure Magic!

BDSM, S/M, and D/s imagery focuses most on the physical aspects of the power exchange. This is only natural…it is what the camera sees best. Only the occasional image adequately begins to convey the strength and beauty of the spiritual and emotional bond between a submissive and her Dom. But when it does, it is a special picture and genuinely stands out. Usually the devotion shows first in the eyes and secondarily in the postures of the Dom and/or His submissive. Feelings are so difficult to capture in an image and yet they are the essence of D/s.

In real life, the reward for Me of submission is 90 percent mental, spiritual and emotional. When the bond is strong and the challenge of successfully leading a submissive issubmissivesheart and mind become immersed in the relationship and how to make it stronger and more fulfilling for both of U/us. My brain is fully engaged. My imagination is energized. My heart beats stronger. I want to be a better man and a better Dom…a better Master/Daddy every day. I want to be all that I possibly can and in so doing inspire and motivate My submissives to strive for their full potential.

D/s between a healthy and confident man and woman (or any combination of the sexes) is an immensely positive relationship. Far from the dark imagery of floggings and physical challenges, it is a spiritually uplifting experience. And with that spiritual bond firmly established between a Dom and a sub, the bodies have no choice but to follow. With the combination of mutual devotion, trust and adoration, comes an environment where all physical experiences and rewards become possible. In that secure space that W/we create and nurture between U/us W/we can indulge in the physical, dance in the darkness, and explore the power exchange in all of its physical manifestations. More magic!

To the submissive – Give your heart, your mind, your soul to the right Dom and He will give you physical and emotional sensations unimaginable. Be not afraid of your desires of submission but be afraid of what you will surely lose if you do not follow your heart.

To the Dom – Lead genuinely with Your heart and mind and the body will follow. Teach with love and patience and never stop learning as You are the leader to which she looks to.

Learn, grow, love each O/other and enjoy this lifestyle as it’s meant to be, judge free.

But that’s just one Dom’s opinion.

Until next time,
Stay safe. Make good choices. And as always, stay kinky My friends.

~ Dray Orion