Tag: SelfDiscovery
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Years of Experience
We’ve all seen shitty drivers, right? Of course, we have.They should have passed a test for their license, they know ‘most’ of the rules. They know how to turn (even if most do it without a turn signal), back up, play their favorite song, park (questionable), and fill up the gas tank (most at least).…
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The Plug
I’m the plug. For every demon I ever tried to outrun. I quit running. Now I keep them fed. They come to me hollow-eyed and hungry, mouths open, needing something wicked to chew on—and I give it to them. Sadism in a syringe.Degradation wrapped in lace.Rage with a ribbon.Shame on tap like fine wine. I…
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The Importance of Words: The Power of Asking
Let’s be clear about something: Dominants are not mind readers. We don’t have a crystal ball that tells us exactly what you need, what you want, or how far you want to go. You can’t expect us to always guess. You have to use your words. I tell my submissives all the time: “Use your…
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You Thought I would Break
You thought I would break, didn’t you?You saw the cracks and mistook them for weakness.But I wasn’t cracking—I was expanding.Stretching past what tried to contain me. Growing into a version of myself you never saw coming. You thought the silence meant defeat. You mistook stillness for surrender.But I wasn’t frozen—I was choosing my next move…
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Effort: My Unexpected Fetish
Effort isn’t sexy because it looks good on paper.It’s sexy because it’s the blood, the grit, the truth. We all know the game—the “show up” for the world with your best face on, the one that gets the likes, the approval, the applause. But effort? Effort doesn’t care about applause. It doesn’t care about validation. Effort shows up when…
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Rules for Beginning Dominants: No Bullshit Allowed
Finding your footing as a Dominant isn’t a walk in the park. I’ve seen too many well-meaning people crash and burn—rushing, faking it, or missing the basics. If you want a real connection, here are the non-negotiables. Rule #1: Don’t be a jerk.Confidence isn’t shouting louder or barking orders. It’s about being solid, grounded, and…
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You’ve Got to Feel Me
I often say I’m an open book—but the truth is, some of the chapters are written in braille.So if you really want to understand the story…You’ve got to feel me. Not everything about me is written in plain sight. Not every truth is told in bold print, captioned neatly, or posted for easy consumption. Some…
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I Did the Damn Thing
After more than a year of writing, rewriting, overthinking, cussing at Word docs, doubting myself, and then finally deciding to do it anyway… I did the damn thing. My book is finished. Published. Out in the world. Living Out Loud: No Shame, No Chains. It’s raw. It’s personal. It’s a manifesto for anyone who’s ever…
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Ollie Ollie Oxen Free
“Ollie Ollie Oxen Free.” It’s something we used to yell as kids during games like Hide and Seek.When the game was over—when it was finally safe to come out of hiding—we’d call it out to anyone still tucked away in the shadows.It meant: The chasing’s done. You’re not in trouble. You can come out now.…
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Standing on Business
A public service announcement for anyone still waiting on applause. I clap for myself. Because I know what I stand for—and I know what I stand on.Truth. Integrity.And the kind of wisdom that only comes from lived experience. I’ve been my own hype man, my own support system, my own reminder that worth isn’t measured…
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