Carolina Confidential

We’ve all seen shitty drivers, right?

Of course, we have.
They should have passed a test for their license, they know ‘most’ of the rules. They know how to turn (even if most do it without a turn signal), back up, play their favorite song, park (questionable), and fill up the gas tank (most at least). They know how the vehicle is supposed to operate. And the longer they do these things—much like anything else in life—they’re gaining experience.

But here’s the rub, people:
All that experience doesn’t make them a good driver. It just makes them a driver. I’ve seen people who’ve been driving every day for 40 years, and they’re absolute terrible drivers. Hands down, I don’t know how they’re still alive. And yet, they’ve been doing it for decades! I’ve seen them applying makeup while driving down the interstate, reading a book on the highway, even watching episodes of their favorite show while driving. We all know those things are dumb to do behind the wheel, but we’ve all seen it. And worse.

All that “experience” has made them think they can just drive willy-nilly. Why? Because they know what they’re doing, right? I call bullshit. Experience doesn’t make you good at something. Period. Just because someone has “years of experience” doing something doesn’t mean they’ve mastered it.

And I hear it all too often in the lifestyle:
“I’ve been doing this for ‘X’ number of years.”
“I’ve been a Dominant/Master/Mistress/Domme/sub/slave for ‘X’ number of years.”
“I’ve been doing this for ‘this long.’”

So what?
All those years don’t make you skilled. All those years don’t make you special.

Here’s the part people don’t like to admit: a lot of that “years of experience” talk isn’t about teaching—it’s about flexing. It’s meant to shut people down, to intimidate, to make someone newer feel like their voice doesn’t matter. That’s not leadership. That’s insecurity hiding behind a calendar.

If you want to flash your resume, cool. Do it. But stop flaunting those years around like they’re some kind of badge. Honestly, you’re not impressing anyone, and all you’re doing is intimidating those with less experience.

Your years of experience don’t mean you’re good at this.
Your years of experience don’t give you permission to act however you please.
Your years of experience don’t make you the final authority.
And for the love of all things holy—stop using it as an excuse.

Experience doesn’t equal good at something. Period.

But that’s just my opinion.

Until next time,
Stay safe. Make good choices. And as always, stay kinky My friends.

~Dray Orion