Carolina Confidential

Let’s be clear about something: Dominants are not mind readers. We don’t have a crystal ball that tells us exactly what you need, what you want, or how far you want to go. You can’t expect us to always guess. You have to use your words.

I tell my submissives all the time: “Use your words.” It’s that simple. If you want something, ask for it. Beg for it. If you’re too shy or hesitant to speak up, then you’re not fully engaged in the dynamic.

You want to be choked? Tell me. Don’t wait for me to read between the lines. If you want me to go harder, say it. Beg for it. Let me know how badly you want it.

You want to be spanked, beaten, degraded, or humiliated? Don’t wait for me to figure it out. Beg me. Make it clear. I’m not here to play guessing games. I’m here to take control. And for me to do that effectively, I need to know exactly what you want. If you’re holding back, I’ll notice. And so will you. This dynamic isn’t about playing it safe—it’s about pushing boundaries.

If you can’t ask for it, then it’s on you. It’s not about being embarrassed or ashamed. Stop hiding behind your hesitation. You want to be used, degraded, bound? Then ask for it. Show me you understand your place, that you know what you want, and that you want it from me.

If you don’t know how to ask, then ask me. Ask, “How do I ask for what I want?” I’ll teach you how to express your desires clearly, without shame. If you can’t speak up, if you can’t own your need, then you’re not in the right place.

I’ll make you beg. I’ll make you show me how much you need me. I’ll watch the desperation in your eyes as you plead for it, knowing you’ve got nothing left but desire and need. That’s where the magic happens.

And let’s talk about the difference between being a submissive and being a passive observer. A submissive follows orders, yes, but they don’t just submit without engagement. If you’re not communicating what you crave or taking part in the dynamic actively, you’re being passive. It’s about more than just receiving commands—it’s about actively participating in the exchange, understanding your role, and communicating your needs. And that starts with using your words.

Here’s the deal: if you can’t say what you want, if you can’t express your desires clearly, then you’re not ready. You’ve got to shed that shame, that embarrassment, and step into your true role. Because I will not waste time with someone who can’t even ask for what they need.

So, when you’re in this dynamic, don’t sit back in silence. Don’t just hope I’ll figure it out. I want to hear you. I want to feel your need. Don’t be coy. Don’t hold back.

You want training? You want to be humiliated? Gagged? Spanked until you can’t sit comfortably? You want to be ravaged, fucked, used like the slut you crave to be? Then get on your knees and beg for it. Beg with desperation in your voice. Show me that you’re worthy of the energy I’m about to invest in you. Once I know what you seek, I and I alone will decide what you actually deserve.

But it’s not just about pain or control. If you need comfort, if you need my touch in softer ways, ask for that too. The cuddles, the head pats, the gentle moments when you need to be reminded you’re safe, cared for, loved—those matter as much as the intensity.

It’s about balance. You give me everything, and I’ll give you what you deserve, whether that’s the harshness you crave or the tenderness you need.

And if you don’t say anything? If you don’t ask for it? Don’t expect me to believe you’re satisfied. Silence doesn’t say, “I’m happy with this.” It says, “I don’t trust you enough to ask for more.”

If you want more, ask for it. If you want me to break you, show me how badly you need it. If you don’t, then this dynamic ends with complacency. And we both know that’s not what we’re here for.

But that’s just one Dom’s opinion.

Until next time,
Stay safe. Make good choices. And as always, stay kinky My friends.

~Dray Orion